How can you have a Nigerian wedding without Asoebi? Asoebi has become a default trend at Nigerian weddings, but it wasn’t always this way. There was a time when our aunties and uncles gifted fabrics to their closest friends and family, celebrating with them at no cost. Today, however, selling asoebi has become a money-making venture, and many couples see it as an opportunity to profit from their guests.
For some, the high prices aren’t by choice—asoebi materials can be exorbitantly expensive in the markets! If the idea of costly asoebi worries you, rest assured: you don’t have to follow the trend.
These tips will help you plan a Nigerian wedding without Asoebi, the expense or potential tension that expensive asoebi can bring. You and your loved ones can celebrate without the drama and bad blood.
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Communicate Clearly with Family and Friends
Asoebi is deeply rooted in Nigerian wedding culture, so many families expect it as part of the celebration (mothers especially). Clearly explain your decision to skip it—whether for financial reasons, simplicity, or a different wedding vision.
If your family still wants a unified look, consider suggesting alternatives like asking guests to wear specific colors, such as white or gold, allowing them to participate without pressure. Emphasize that everyone is welcome to wear what they already own.
Choose Wedding Colours
To have a Nigerian wedding without asoebi, selecting unique wedding colors can create the desired uniformity without the hassle of coordinating asoebi. Share a color code (e.g., yellow lace with blue gele) with your guests, and they can dress accordingly while maintaining their freedom of choice.
Inform Your Guest Early
If there won’t be asoebi, let your guests know on time so they can plan their outfits instead of depending on you to provide them with a material to sew.
Have a Wedding Theme
A themed wedding can bring a sense of cohesion, encouraging guests to dress in a particular style. Whether it’s a traditional look, vintage vibes, or a color-coded theme, your wedding will feel unified and fun without the commitment of asoebi.
Don’t get involved if Your Family Insists
If family members still want to wear Asoebi, let them organize it independently. They can choose to buy and coordinate fabrics on their own, while you stay focused on your plans. This allows them to show unity without involving you in stress and wahala
A Nigerian wedding can be beautiful, lively, and stress-free without the pressure of asoebi. Your special day should be about joy, not obligations—and it’s entirely possible to celebrate in style without the hassle. Enjoy your wedding, and you’re welcome!
This article was updated on October 22, 2024.
